[Student Profile] Rob Murstein

Rob Murstein comes from a ‘very liturgical’ family; they attend Shabbat services every Friday evening, Saturday morning, and Saturday afternoon until havdalah. Rob’s father is a regular Torah reader at shulhis brother studied chazzanut with their cantor, and Rob himself read Torah at shul for the first time when he was six years old; and then again at age seven when his brother and sister became b’nai mitzvah. The Mursteins also enjoyed their long Pesach seders, reveling in singing Birkat Hamazon.

At age 11, the young man began to study Chumash, Mishnah and Gemara with his rabbi, which whetted his appetite for Jewish learning, and he increasingly grew to wonder about Judaism beyond his affiliation with the other members of his family’s Boca Raton country club. Rob’s five summers at Camp Ramah Darom also gave him exposure to many empowered, inspiring staff members; and sharpened his sense that there was something more to Judaism that he wasn’t finding in his home environment.

Then – not long after Rob’s bar mitzvahContinue reading

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[Self / Soul & Text] Radical Acceptance

I spent last Shabbat at Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach’s moshav near the city of Modi’in, where my grandparents and other close family members live. This Shabbaton was particularly convenient for me because it allowed me to visit my family without worrying about rushing back to J’lem for Shabbat (especially during the winter). It was also quite an experience for me for several reasons Continue reading

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Interview with Réka Eszter Bodó

One of this year’s Pardes Fellows is studying at Pardes for her first time this year – last year she was studying at the Conservative Yeshiva. Réka Eszter Bodó is one of Pardes’ international students; she’s from Hungary, and These&Those (Th&Th) thought it would be interesting to interview her to learn a bit about her life in Eastern Europe.

Th&Th: Can you give us a quick overview of the history of Jewish life in Hungary before 1989 (the end of Communism)?

Réka: So let’s jump back in time, for a short overview from the Jewish point of view. The period of the Austro-Hungarian Empire was a Golden Age – not only for Hungarians, but also in a way for Jews – emancipation, assimilation (Jewish nobles!), acculturation, the Reform movement, Orthodoxy, Hungarian Charedim…

Then came the Holocaust and Communism. Holocaust survivors had two options after the tragedy of the complete destruction of countryside Hungarian Jewry: you could keep on being Jewish (whatever that means, you go to synagogue or you are Zionist) and risk your career and your children’s education, or you could accept the communists’ suggestion (among whom were a lot of your Jewish friends who reasoned that “my enemy’s (Nazi’s) enemy (the Soviets) are my friends”) and totally give up your Jewish identity, which often meant that you didn’t tell your kids that you (and they) are Jewish. The second option was much more popular.

Th&Th: How about Jewish life after 1989?

Réka: Imagine building, working in such a Jewish community: your grandparents survived the Holocaust, they never learned to trust a non-Jew or to be OK with being “openly Jewish”… if you try to go outside with a Magen David charm, your grandmother will come and cover it, saying, “it is dangerous”. Jews might feel that it’s important to have a Jewish community, but they are afraid. You just don’t have your parents’ generation. Can you imagine a Jewish community with a huge age gap? Your parents don’t have any connection to Judaism; they feel that it is stupid, useless or even harmful. And there is your generation, people up to their late 30’s, who are there, looking for answers and willing to work, but no one is there to educate, teach and help. Not to mention that in Hungary everything comes from state money (the rabbis get their salary from the state!) so nobody is willing to contribute financially to the Jewish community. And on top of that, volunteering was obligatory during the Communism regime so people have very negative associations with it.

Th&Th: Can you tell us a bit about your family?

Réka: I was born in a mixed family: on my mother’s side I am a third generation Holocaust survivor, on my father’s side I am descendent of a Transylvanian, Hungarian noble family (Catholic of course). I grew up in a totally assimilated, atheist environment (my father left the Church after my physicist grandfather got himself excommunicated; my mother never had any kind of religious background). 

Th&Th: So how did you relate to your Jewish identity?

Réka: I got to know that I was Jewish at the age of eight, when my grandparents brought me to the great synagogue of Budapest (one of the largest in the world) on Yom Kippur. It was huge, and beautiful, lot of gold and the lights everywhere, it amazed me. Some years later I went to a JDC summer camp where I first started to learn about Judaism and I can’t really explain… because I am a scientist… I don’t believe in these kind of things, but I just immediately felt that Judaism is my way. I never felt I had a choice… I didn’t choose this – it was mine from the moment I met it.

Later, especially after my Taglit-Birthright trip I got involved in so many Jewish organizations, Limmud Hungary, Jewish Agency, JCC, Israeli Cultural Institute, etc. I always knew I wanted to study “Jewish stuff” seriously so I honestly feel that these years in Israel are the most important of my life, and would like to get as much out of them as possible…

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Faces of Pardes: Meet Hayim Leiter

By Suzi Brozman

If you’ve spent any time in the Beit Midrash (and what Pardes student hasn’t?), you’ve at least seen the tall, lanky man seated in the corner, earbuds in his ears, study volume open.  And chances are good that he’s approached your table and asked, “Is everything good?  Any questions?”  If, like me, you’re just beginning to test the deep waters of Torah, Tanakh, Rambam, Ramban, Rashi et al, Hayim Leiter’s presence is as good as a life preserver on a boat.  He’s always there, always available to help or just to provide reassurance that you’re staying on course.  And if he doesn’t have the answer to your question, he’ll be back with it before you know it.  He’s Pardes’ own Shoel Umeishiv—our question and answer man.

But who is he?  Super surfer dude?  Mohel in the making?  Yes on both counts.  And what’s he doing here, away from beaches and babies?  Leiter answers—“I needed a place to learn, working on Hilchot Milah to prepare for certification as a Mohel from the Rabbanut.  So I trade.  For a place to keep my books and study, I lend a helping hand at Pardes, doing night Seder, answering questions for students during the day.  I do some substitute teaching and have a number of chevrutot, people working on parsha, Gemara, Halakha, how to use various texts, a lot of reading and grammar to help students move ahead.”

Away from Pardes, knives are Hayim’s main obsession, as he’s learning to use them skillfully in that most Jewish of professions, being a Mohel.  “What made you decide to do that?”  I asked him recently.  He responded, “In the beginning, it was a great source of side income if you have a pulpit in the States.  I started watching.  I was in the front row of every bris I went to, getting used to the sight, learning, speaking to Mohelim.  I had thought a baby was not Jewish until he had the bris. I learned that this is wrong but that change at the moment of joining the covenant is a very inspiring process to be part of.  My family has always been very child-centered.  This wasn’t the angle I thought I’d take to have children in my life, but it’s great for me.  I felt with my experience, I could do it well, better than many others, with a more sensitive, better touch.”

He has the same confident attitude toward teaching.  “It’s clear to me,” he said, “as I ask students if they have questions, that students are all over the spectrum of their classes.  Many need to make up in specific areas.  I work with them so they can function in the classes they need or want to be in, especially the educators’ classes.  There is no doubt in my mind that this is what I’m best at.  I work well with beginners, approaching a text as a beginner would, understanding the issues they face as they enter a text.  Sitting down with students who don’t, for instance, know how to use a Shulchan Aruch…I understand where they are.  I relate to them and their approach.  That gives me an edge helping students.”

I can vouch for the efficacy of his approach personally.  Ever since I arrived at Pardes in September, barely able to sound out a Hebrew word, much less understand text, and without even a casual acquaintance with many of our classical texts, Hayim has been there, always ready to offer suggestions, to sit down and guide me through troublesome passages, explain concepts and difficult words.  He seems to watch out for those of us who are still stumbling, and especially figures out how each student can best be helped.  Whether obstacles are intellectual or physical, he finds a way to ease us along the path of learning.

Okay, that’s the scholar.  What about the surfer?  His love of waves began at a hang gliding camp in North Carolina, right on the beach.  Already a good swimmer and an accomplished board athlete—skate boarding, snow boarding and even scuba diving (no board needed for that one),  “I saw these guys surfing.  I thought they were floating on air!  It was so cool.”  Later that summer, at Cape May, his parents told him there were surfboards for rent.  “I went out, got up on my first wave, and that was it.  I did not set foot on the beach until they forced me!”  Later, he surfed up and down the east coast and taught surfing on the west coast.

He says it’s lucky that Israel has the Mediterranean Sea.  “Otherwise I don’t know if I could have made aliyah.”

R. Hayim Leiter

He visits Tel Aviv and Caesaria beaches whenever there are waves (except on Shabbat of course), and goes as often as once or twice a week.  Except when there are “dry spells”—no wind, not any water!

Originally from Philadelphia, Hayim studied at the University of Rhode Island (near the beaches and not more than 5 hours from home), learned at the Jewish Theological Seminary and Yeshivat Chovei Torah before receiving smicha from Yeshivat HaMivtar in Efrat.  He  made aliyah two years ago, his wife Lea came 9 years ago.  They have a 16-month-old daughter, Maytal Batya, and are expecting another child in April.  If the baby is a boy, one student asked in a multi-part class on brit milah, will Leiter do the brit?  His answer was a resounding Of Course!!!

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2011-2012 Pardes Fellows (1 of 3)

Let’s meet some of this year’s Pardes Fellows! 


Ben Barer

Benjamin Barer  is from Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, and first attended Pardes in the Fall of 2010 before completing his undergraduate studies in philosophy at UBC last Spring. Before matriculating at UBC, Ben studied at a Chofetz Chayim yeshiva for high school in Vancouver, and now at Pardes, Ben revels in the diverse community, and the opportunity to learn – and live – with a group of motivated, inspiring Jews of all backgrounds with all kinds of interests. He feels that being at Pardes is an invaluable chance to appreciate the depth and richness of what Judaism has to offer in the 21st century. 

For his ’Fellows project’, Ben is going to be working on the P.R. side of Pardes, dealing with matters like the website and social media, and he hopes to further explore his love of Jewish texts in the Pardes Beit Midrash, an unparalleled learning atmosphere, and hopes to further question – and maybe even come to terms with - his Jewish identity.  He also aims to take advantage of the resources that Pardes places at his fingertips in order to prepare for his next degree: an MA in Jewish Studies.  Eventually, Ben intends to write a thesis that has been on his mind for a few years, comparing the ways in which Judaism and philosophy interact with, specifically critique, previous generations of scholars in their various disciplines and/or cultures. 

Read Ben’s blog for his thoughts on Judaism, philosophy, politics, and life generally. 


Jessica Belasco

Jessica Belasco is from that infamous suburb in Westchester County, NY that shall not be named ;)  

Before graduating from Vassar College in 2010, Jessica served on the board of the Jewish student union, started an alternative Jewish campus magazine, and lived in a vegan/vegetarian cooperative house. After studying religion and Jewish studies, Jessica came to Pardes in Fall ’10, and fell in love with the warmth of the community, and the high level of the learning.   

Jessica would like to create an official space for open dialogue on contentious issues within the Jewish community.  While these sorts of questions are often discussed in private, Jess thinks it would be beneficial to bring these discussions out into the public sphere. 

“Encouraging vigorous debate within a respectful atmosphere helps to broaden the parameters of the Jewish conversation by enabling those who might feel quietly marginalized to step up and become part of that conversation.”

Also, Jess has discovered (much to her surprise) that she is a gemara and halacha nerd.  She wants to become as fluent with gemara as she can, and develop her understanding of how halacha can interface with the modern world.  She also wants to work on her own observance level, and make as many wonderful and fascinating new friends as she can.

Jessica has a love-hate relationship with all things Jewish, and she wouldn’t want it any other way.  She thinks it’s crucial for Pardes students to become informed about the context of Jerusalem and its surroundings, and to engage with the diversity of society here.  Also, she’s planning to start a disabled mafia that will take over the world and smash the able-archy.  Post your comments below if you’d like to join.


Réka Eszter Bodó

Réka Eszter Bodó is from Budapest, Hungary; she lived there all her life before coming to Jerusalem last year to study at the Conservative Yeshiva. Before that she studied at college, and worked at the Israeli Cultural Institue as assistant and program coordinator. Réka has a B.Sc in Physics with a minor in Math. 

This year, Réka is discovering the Pardes community along with the rest of the student body, and as a Fellow she plans to help with recruitment in Eastern and Central Europe, and support the incoming students through their transitions into Israeli society. She hopes to give a lot to Pardes from her unique perspective – an Eastern European with a scientific background.

By the end of the year, Réka would like to be able to navigate traditional Jewish texts independently, and she aims to work as a teacher some day – most likely in Jewish education!

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