[Student Profile] Carolina Rios Mandel

“What influenced me the most was how my parents acted toward others. Both of them were my role models. Both were black sheep… I like black sheep :)

After escaping from Hungary during the Holocaust, Carolina’s grandparents didn’t affiliate themselves with the Jewish community of Venezuela, and raised their children without much Jewish tradition… so it came as no surprise that her mother married someone outside of Judaism. Neither her mother nor her father were particularly religious, but both were very spiritual, and she grew up attending family events at both churches and synagogues… both Jewish and Catholic, and neither at the same time.

A tragic car accident took her father’s life when Carolina was 16 years old, and dealing with the loss changed her profoundly. She started looking at the world through different eyes, and enrolled in philosophy classes at her French high school. Then at age 17, Carolina left Venezuela because her private high school diploma was not accepted there. She could have gone to France, but instead she chose California.

At California State University, Long Beach Carolina’s diverse group of friends were into philosophy, political science, psychology, international studies, and religion… but she distrusted ideology, and had never really experienced religion in a meaningful way. At her International House Residence Hall, Carolina became friends with people of various faiths and cultures, but when pressed she insisted that she was simply Venezuelan.

“Maybe I didn’t want to connect to Judaism… in my family it had been a painful thing… first the Holocaust… and then my grandparents suffering in a terrorist attack before the Israeli embassy in Paris while they were visiting my uncle…”

After graduating and working for a year in Los Angeles, Carolina was accepted to the Columbia University School of Social Work, and moved to NYC for student orientation. Just then her mother, sick with emphysema, was informed that she needed a double lung transplant, and was only expected to live for a few more years… and Carolina quit her program to move back home with her mother.

While she had been studying and living in California, Carolina’s mother had developed an interest in Jewish mysticism and meditation, and had connected with a small, egalitarian Jewish community. Mother and daughter watched Jewish movies together like Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl, and her mother confided to her that perhaps she had  been wrong to raise her without a Jewish tradition. Two years later, Carolina returned to NYC at her mother’s behest, but continued to travel back and forth to Venezuela until her mother passed away during her 2nd year at Columbia.

Wanting to do the right thing for her mother, she began to read a book about Jewish mourning that a rabbi at the hospital had given her, and realized she wanted to perform the Jewish mourning rituals she was learning about. So Carolina decided to recite kaddish for her mother, and for the first time ever, religion made sense to her – the rituals and traditions of the Jewish people could honor her mother’s memory.

“I chose a Jewish name for myself: Liora. My mother’s smile and pride had been my light, and now I need to be my own light…”

In 2010, Carolina  graduated from Columbia, and received a grant through her International House in NYC to support the work of the African Refugee Development Center in Israel (ARDC). Having worked with the children of Ganean and Liberian refugees in Long Island, and having grown close to them, Carolina felt that working with refugees in Israel would be a good way for her to connect with the country.

When her work at ARDC ended, Carolina entered the WUJS Jerusalem Learning Program, and enrolled at Pardes for the semester of Fall ’11. She’d been impressed by reading about the Pardes ‘Social Justice’ and ‘Peace & Conflict’ tracks, but R. James Jacobson-Maisels’ class on the Aish Kodesh touched her in a way that she never expected.

“Even though I can’t compare situations, I can connect to the downs and the depressions of the context. And despite all the ugliness, and all the darkness and all the trauma, it’s incredible to find someone who can still inspire people in such a way… When you are in those situations you are pushed to the limits of what you can do… something about the Aish Kodesh transcends everything… he’s just amazing.”

After her semester at Pardes, Carolina is traveling to India for a good friend’s wedding, but she’s planning on returning to Israel in June… and making Aliyah to pursue social justice in the Jewish homeland.

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Week 15: Exoduses

On Sunday the 11th, the Social Justice Track went on a tiyyul to South Tel-Aviv to explore the situation of refugees and migrant workers in Israel.

Refugees in Israel are mostly asylum seekers fleeing persecution in their native Sudan, Darfur, and Eritrea. While walking through South Tel-Aviv, it is easy to forget you are still in Israel, especially after you’ve spent so much time in Jerusalem; Eritrean and Sudanese flags are everywhere; the music, food, window signs and of course people are African. We saw a lot on our tour, but two experiences stand out: the Tel-Aviv Central Bus Station and the refugees’ stories. If the South Tel-Aviv street is more like Africa than Israel, the Central Bus Station is like everywhere else in the world that isn’t Israel than Israel. Since every day so many east Asian and central African migrant workers and refugees flock through it daily, it was teeming with flags and calling-card rates for Thailand, the Philippines, and China, bags of shrimp snacks and other foods, and an enormous lighted, musical Christmas gift display., the only reminder that this was indeed still Israel aside from the olive-skinned people staffing the Christmas display were the Hebrew signs over the glatt-trayf food stands. I really wish I had brought my camera, for this is the Zionist dream: other peoples being able come here to make a living while still being who they are in what remains a distinctly, uniquely Jewish country.

The other highlight, and by far the most powerful part of the day, was listening to Ismail and Ali’s stories. Both men are Africans who risked their and their families’ lives to come to a country they knew nothing about in the hopes of the possibility being able to live there in peace. The journey they and the 1,000′s of other refugees make is dangerous beyond belief: They travel almost entirely on foot from central Africa. Along the way, most fall into the hands of the Bedouin in the Sinai who often traffic and abuse them. Most women will get repeatedly raped along the way and sold as sex slaves; Bedouin killing and selling the organs of people who they don’t expect to receive much money for is not unheard of.

Those who survive the Bedouins and reach the Negev are usually soon greeted by the IDF. Ismail said once the IDF approached him, in their military gear and tank, and established that he was an asylum seeker, the first thing they did was offer his young son a glass of water. They then took them in and helped them get to Tel-Aviv. Ismail currently runs a small shop and, with his own money, started a free center to teach fellow-refugees Hebrew and computer skills (Ismail has an advanced degree in computer science but hasn’t been able to do much with it since the persecution started in Darfur). Ali had a similar story, although his family is still in a refugee camp in Chad. I don’t remember how long it has been exactly, but I think he said it had been something like 24 years since he last saw his wife and children.

Hardships aside, both men are “enjoying” life in Israel as much as they could be expected to, given their situations. Both men are making a decent living and have been here over 20 years. Both speak Hebrew fluently, and Ismail said it is his children’s first language. Both said they have experienced almost no racism since arriving here and will be eternally grateful for how good Israel has been to them. As Muslims being persecuted by other Muslims, they thank God for Israel at least as much (if not more) than many Jews do or, thankfully, could right now. As Israeli as he and his family are, they are not Jewish, and therefore, can never become citizens. But that does not mean they are in a bad situation: they have a legal status in this country and are entitled to certain rights. Israel has no official policy on refugees yet besides the rights specified in the UN Refugee Convention of 1951 to which it, in the shadow of the Holocaust, was an enthusiastic signatory. Israel of course does not have open borders nor was anyone advocating for them—our tour guide, a Pardes alumnus who currently works for the Jewish Joint-Distribution Committee, had many stories to tell of deporting people who, while in a desperately poor and all but hopeless situation in their home countries, are not in physical danger there and thus not in need of asylum. Most of these people end up staying in Israel anyway illegally, but the point remains.

Walking the South Tel-Aviv streets and hearing the refugees’ testimonies, seeing first-hand what a beacon Israel can be to non-Jews, was the most uplifting experience I’ve yet had on a Social Justice tiyyul. We are a people whose holiest book commands us, more than anything else, to have compassion on the stranger, for we were strangers in Egypt (and Europe, and Arabia, and Ethiopia, ad nauseum). It can sometimes be too easy to be jaded when our Jewish state is not everything we think it ought to be, which made it especially refreshing to see a positive story—these people had no idea what a Jew was until they got here, they only knew that this was a free country where they might be able to make a living. And after making unimaginable sacrifices to get here, they discovered not only financial opportunity, but a welcoming, largely sympathetic people. The sight of non-Jewish asylum seekers speaking Hebrew and blessing themselves by Israel was a source of great pride and nachas for myself and most of the class. Ismail said as a refugee he identifies with the Jewish story and he and Ali seemed genuinely touched that we cared not only to hear but then to ask thoughtful questions about their stories. As I mentioned earlier, this, too, I believe, is a proud fulfillment the Zionist dream.

After listening to Ismail and Ali, we met with a woman from the Hotline for Migrant Workers, for whom the situation is not so positive. Like in America, there are jobs Israelis don’t want to do. Since using Arab workers is no longer an option for many reasons, Israel turns to the Far East, mostly Thailand and the Philippines, to get its menial laborers. Like the African refugees, the journey to Israel for these people is difficult—they pay agencies upwards of $10,000, that they usually borrow, just to leave their families to come here. They then must spend their first several years here just working off their debt for the journey before they can begin sending money home. While they do have some standing under Israeli law, there has never been legislation passed concerning them. They frequently work long hours for less than Israeli minimum wage, but this is still oftentimes better than what they could make at home. It’s a complicated situation that I don’t pretend to know much about, but at least in this problem, Israel is far from unique.

It was a rough day with the many highs and lows I’ve come to expect from Social Justice tiyyulim. Also like other Social Justice tiyyulim, it left me too grateful for words for my situation in life, and committed to—as a Jew every bit as much as as a human being—never stop using my fortunate situation and education as leverage for stepping up for those less fortunate.

 

Tuesday night was the first of hopefully many soirees for my Modern Jewish Thought class. Most of my class plus a few guests met at two classmates’ apartment to tackle humanity’s biggest issues the way great minds have been doing it for centuries—while drinking wine; eating cheese, fruit, and junk food; and reclining on comfortable couches. Our topic for discussion was surrender to God vs. creativity: Does surrendering to God’s Will leave any room for creativity? What would/should a balance look like? Is surrendering to God’s Will totally desirable to begin with? Does surrender in Judaism mean anything besides obeying the Law? Can Judaism without Law even possible? Can surrender exist without God?, and much, much more. One of the things I love most about Pardes is even though our teacher was too busy to join us, it turns out, we really didn’t need him (much as we missed him)—we led and moderated the discussion and stayed on topic (at least in so far as possible in a room full of Jews). Another thing I love about Pardes is that time and again we prove that respectful dialogue with people you disagree with is not only possible, but beneficial to every side. Personally, when people said things I disagreed with (which was often), I found myself not only seeing a lot of myself in their religious struggles even though they have taken different turns than and reached different conclusions than I have, but also respecting them more for their honestly sharing their thoughts, and being open to critique. I like to think I would have been able to accept honest critique too had anyone who disagreed with me actually been able to form a coherent argument. All in all, it was a wonderful, energizing night that left me reflecting on my own beliefs and energized about spending the rest of the year learning wrestling with our Tradition alongside these people.

Friday morning, my level bet Chumash class along with level aleph held a siyum to celebrate our finishing studying Parashat Sh’mot, the first 5 chapters of the Book of Exodus. A siyum is a feast usually thrown to celebrate the completion of a tractate of Talmud or some other long, complex, intricate text. So why have one for celebrating finishing the first 5 chapters of Exodus? Because for us, Parashat Sh’mot is a long, difficult, intricate text—we’ve been learning it 3 mornings a week since coming back from Yom Kippur. If the better part of three months seem like a lot of time to get through 5 chapters of text, you should just know that we aren’t just learning what the text is about—how the Israelites multiply and become enslaved in Egypt, Moses is born, Moses grows up and gets into trouble for caring too much, Moses argues with God at the burning bush, Moses gets laughed at by Pharaoh—we’re learning what it says, literally doing a word-by-word, sometimes letter-by-letter reading of the original Hebrew text, getting inside its grammar, structure, parallelism, symbolism and allusions, and the varying interpretations and explanations different classical commentators and Midrashim have of all these things and more. It’s a lot of work, which is what made the siyum so sweet. Besides eating way too much sugar, we celebrated our accomplishment by singing nigguns, hearing classmates’ reflections on the parsha, hearing a d’var Torah from our teacher, Rav Meir, and playing review games. Another thing I love about Pardes is that grown adults actually get competitive playing Bible review games. But one thing I don’t love about Pardes is how it’s Bible review games are rigged: Our teachers actually expect us to believe both games ended in a 5-way tie, but I’m not stupid. When everyone gets a prize at the end of a competition and nobody is made to feel superior to his peers, nobody really wins. But this is what I get for going to a more liberal yeshiva.

Quote of the Week: “’I want to start a new tradition.’ Well, you can’t start a new tradition, to say that means you understand no part of that sentence!” -DLK

Hebrew Word of the Week: פליט (“paleet”) – refugee

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[Student Profile] Nadya & Ethan Bair

The Bairs

His parents raised Ethan with a deep awareness that Hashem is in all religions; that no single faith community could have a monopoly on religious truth. Every Shabbat, they would light Shabbat candles, and they celebrated the Jewish holidays, but Ethan, raised by two teachers of Universal Sufism, never felt connected to a Jewish community.


In 1991 Nadya and her family immigrated from Moscow to New York City as Jewish refugees. Despite their refugee status, Nadya’s parents did not have a strong sense of Jewish identity, and they were suspicious of affiliating with Jewish organizations. She was raised with no Jewish practice, and she did not receive a childhood Jewish education.


As a student at Oberlin College, Ethan became a leader of the Jewish student organization, and led High Holiday services at Hillel for four years.

“Central to Universal Sufisim is the idea of ‘spiritual lineage’ … and as I became increasingly involved in the Jewish community at Oberlin, I began to wonder about my own.”

His wonder led him to major in Religion, Jewish studies, and German, and Ethan also learned Torah regularly with his rabbi at Hillel. Eventually, the young man graduated, and moved to Germany as a Fulbright Scholar, interviewing German Jews of Russian descent as a case study of Jewish identity.


At Barnard, Nadya majored in in Russian regional studies, while traveling to Russia every Summer as an employee of the UJA-Federation of NY. She worked in the Commission on Jewish Identity & Renewal on the task force on Russian speaking Jewry, and eventually she also started assessing major UJA-Federation grant recipients.

“I started learning about Judaism through my work. I simply didn’t have the connection to Jewish culture, religion, and peoplehood that my colleagues and the UJA board members had.”

Through her work, Nadya first learned of Pardes, and studied here during the summer of 2006 before moving to Russia for a year to open the Moscow branch of UJA-Federation of NY.  Nadya would return to Pardes in the Summer of 2008 and once again in the Summer of 2011 with her future husband.


Ethan and Nadya met while living in Los Angeles after their great international adventures, and they were married in 2010. Ethan had moved to California to study at HUC as a rabbinical student, and Nadya had begun her Ph.D. program in Art History at USC. They both joined the ‘Shtibl Minyan’ community, and Nadya celebrated her bat mitzvah there… marking the special event by teaching four other women in her community to leyn Torah.

Eventually, Ethan completed his rabbincal studies, and felt that he wanted an opportunity to nurture his own neshama before beginning his work as the USC Hillel rabbi in the Fall of 2011. Together with Nadya, Ethan came to Pardes in the Summer of 2011 to learn with her in Jerusalem, feeling that it would be an opportunity for him to struggle with his relationship to Israel.

“I hope to encourage my students to invest in their own relationships with Israel – and to add to the various, nuanced ways that we can hold conversations about this sensitive issue.”

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[Student Profile] Merissa Nathan Gerson

“… now I better understand what I was looking for… I didn’t know what to ask for – I didn’t know what it looked like – I didn’t realize I could trust Judaism, but at Pardes I’ve realized that everything I was looking for exists in Jewish texts.”

As a young woman growing up in Washington, DC, Merissa was heavily involved in race dialogues, and later came to feel that her complex Jewish identity was ‘swallowed up’ by her identity as a white person. In college, Merissa continued having difficulty articulating her Jewish identity, and felt uncomfortable at the WUSTL Hillel. Her group of mostly Jewish friends were unified by common interests – by music, culture, and their love for the outdoors – more than by Judaism itself.

Merissa’s rooted, deeply internalized Judaism stood on the pillars of culture, ancestry, and family, with Holocaust memories at its base. Her father had grown up in DP camps in Uzbekistan, and her mother’s father had fled in the ’30s from the devastating pogroms in Germany before the eruption of WWII. They were a family of proud, committed Jews, coming together for Shabbat dinner every Friday, and celebrating it once a month with other families from the Adas Israel Hebrew school. She came from a strong Jewish community.

During her senior year of college Merissa studied abroad in S. Africa, and fell in love with a Rastafarian who believed in the tenets of Judaism. He believed in gratitude for all things; believed that nature was an element of G-d; and believed that one could see blessings and spirit in all of creation. Abroad, Merissa found the space to explore her own spirituality. Eventually, she found herself driven to go on a personal ‘spiritual search’, which took her to Israel after college graduation.

When Merissa returned, she moved to Martha’s Vineyard, and began attending Shabbat services every week while working as a farmer… marking the first time that she had ever regularly attended shul on her own convictions. For years to follow, the adventurous spirit moved from place to place and from job to job – working as a Hebrew school teacher, lamp maker, waitress, writer, etc. – and made a point of finding a shul that spoke to her everywhere she lived.

In 2006 Merissa moved to Boulder, Colorado to study at Naropa University for an MFA in writing and poetics. As she sought inner peace, her work came to focus on her family’s Holocaust history and how trauma would resurface in the body. She also began regularly having conversations about Judaism as she explored the shuls of Boulder; and she discussed spirituality with monks and yogis, even as she studied Jewish mysticism.

After traveling for several more years and participating in multiple writing residencies around the country, the young writer eventually realized that she needed more Jewish knowledge for the sake of her work. As she neared the end of her residencies, Merissa again felt spiritually drawn towards Israel. She found work at an African refugee development center in Tel Aviv for the summer of 2010, and then applied to Pardes for the year upon the recommendations of her friends and family.

Among her most powerful Pardes experiences, Merissa recalls her visit to the town of Zamosc during the annual Pardes Poland trip… the town where most of her father’s family had been murdered by the Nazis. For this child of a Holocaust survivor family, the trip was particularly meaningful.

Beyond this, the young seeker found a supportive, spiritual community among her classmates in the Pardes Self, Soul & Text Track, and learned much about Jewish spiritual practices with Rabbi James Jacobson-Maisels. Of course, Merissa can best describe her own impressions… and her recent, beautiful writings (1, 2, 3) for Lilith Magazine reflect some of her personal growth and Pardes experiences!

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