[Student Profile] Marty Flashner

Marty (R) with Dennis Prager

Originally hailing from Boston, Marty Flashner has a wife and three kids, a law degree, an MBA, and worked for almost thirty-three years with Ernst & Young, one of the largest professional service firms in the world, including running the firm’s tax practice in Connecticut for the last ten years. Yet, for all this career success, Marty now wants nothing more than to leave an impact in his local Jewish community.

He characterizes his early experiences with Judaism as “kind-of mixed.” In third-grade, he rebelled and stopped going to Hebrew school, thus ending his formal Jewish training in childhood. “It was actually much later in life that I really started reading the Chumash and studying it in a more rigorous way,” he said. This study drove a desire to become more involved in his Jewish community, so he began volunteering for a number of different Jewish charities, including his temple, the UJA Federation of Greenwich, CT, and even Continue reading

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[Student Profile] Tamar Roth

tamarTamar (Fall ’12) had only planned to remain at Pardes for the Elul Program, but ended up staying for the entire Fall semester – much to her own surprise!

Having grown up in the Golders Green Synagogue community, Tamar became a leader of her local Bnei Akiva youth group, taking on the role of madricha at the age of 15. Her father, Benedict Roth, was himself a Pardes student in the ’89-’90 Year Program and returned to Pardes again for the 2012 Summer Program – so he’s quite proud of his daughter for coming to learn at Pardes after completing high school!

The young woman has been very pleased to note that her Jewish community in London has gradually been creating more opportunities for women to participate in communal ritual, as women’s megilla readings are now fairly common, and they are given a Torah scroll at shul to dance with on Simchat Torah. By the time Tamar herself leined Torah at home for her bat mitzvah during Shabbat minchah, this already seemed less unusual to her friends and neighbors than had her sister’s Torah leining several years prior. Continue reading

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The trees are alive with the sound of silence

By Shoshana Rosen

How do I even begin to put into words, an experience that in its essence has no words?

Just recently coming back from a silent meditation shabbaton, up north at Kibbutz Hannaton I realize only how much it impacted me by the stark reality of coming back home. Like many have said before me, sometimes you only realize how much you have changed, until you go back home.

Well for me, home is Jerusalem and Machon Pardes, particularly the Beit Midrash.

As I sit in Hummash class, all of these powerful images of the last couple of days flood my mind. What I would have done the last couple of days was sit on the floor, hands open, resting on my thighs, breathing in and out and letting the thoughts flow and ‘gently but firmly’ returning to my breath. But doing that would have been a little weird, considering I was wearing my black long boots sitting in Rabbi Meir’s hummash class while looking at Rashi. In fact, the only dress code Pardes has is to wear shoes, and for the first time, it felt super constraining, wishing I could feel the grass through my toes. Continue reading

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Gone Hikin’

This past weekend, I was fortunate enough to be included in a shabbaton with some of my classmates at our teacher’s house. We went on a hike beforehand, which was b-e-a-utiful.

I also got to use my new camera lens! My first eBay purchase (they were practically giving it away!). Nothing too impressive yet, but I hope to improve as time goes on. As I always say, you can never have too many hobbies. Right?

Roadside hoodlums.

Roomies pre-hike

I think this captures our relationship pretty well.

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Being Cool and Staying in School!

Originally posted on Sept. 19:

Hello friends and family!! I’ve finally started school, and it’s been keeping me so busy I haven’t had time to update my blog. So, here’s the past two weeks in a nutshell: 1)SO MUCH LEARNING 2)SO MANY NEW FRIENDS!

School: It’s been a combination of challenging and rewarding so far. I finally switched my classes around so that I’m happy with my schedule. I’m taking a class on Genesis, the “Megillot” (Song of Songs, Ruth, Lamentations, Ecclesiastes, and Esther), one morning of Mishna (Jewish Oral Law), Turning Points in Modern Jewish History, a “Parshat HaShavua” (Torah portion of the week) class which is ALL IN HEBREW, AHHHH!, a Rabbinic Thought class, and a Teaching Prayer class. I’m also taking a class on Trope (how to chant the Torah), a Chasidut class, and a class about “Neviim Rishonim” (First Prophets – Joshua, Judges, Samuel, Kings). Needless to say, I am busy and exhausted and my brain hurts after a long day (sometimes 8:30am-9pm) but it’s been lots of fun so far. As everyone keeps saying, “all beginnings are hard,” but I’m really enjoying myself so far.

Friends and other adventures: We had a Shabbaton (weekend-long retreat) for the whole school and I really bonded with a lot of people over the weekend. Everyone is so nice and so welcoming, and I’m having so much fun. I’ve really been enjoying getting to explore Jerusalem the past few weeks. The Ben Yehuda Street area has TONS to do – bars, shops, frozen yogurt… the essentials. It’s about a 15-minute bus ride from where I live and there’s always a new friend who wants to go hang out down there. There’s also a great street close to where I live, about a 5-10 minute walk, which is a fun place to go and obviously much closer to home. For Shabbat and holidays I’ve been getting to go to lots of different friends’ houses for meals and go to lots of different styles of services, which has been fun.

Sukkot is coming up, which means a nice long break from school. Originally, I was planning on traveling with a few other girls and hoping to get a last-minute deal to Turkey, Spain, Italy, or Greece, but we can’t seem to find anything cheap enough :( so I think I may end up going to this festival in the desert for a few days just to get out of Jerusalem for a bit. I’m sure whatever I end up doing, I’ll have a good time :)

Miss y’all so so much, and I’m really wishing I could be with everyone at Doak this weekend to watch the Noles dominate Clemson… but I do know that this is right where I’m supposed to be for the next year!! Wishing everyone a Happy New Year, and GO FSU!!!!

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Holiday Edition!

cross-posted from my blog:

Hey!  It’s been a while since I posted last, so lets get right to it.

The last 2 weeks were the two major holidays of the year, Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, and the last major holiday of the month, Sukkot, begins on Sunday night and lasts for a week.  Sukkahs are already popping up all over town, as well as people selling lulavs and etrogs.  I’ll try to take some pictures over the week and then post them  since it’s going to be awesome to see.  This is kind of like the Thanksgiving/Christmas holiday season in America – schools are off, lots of holidays, and Coca Cola has their holiday edition bottles out…the only difference is the lack of snow.

For Rosh Hashana, I bounced around to a bunch of different places for services and meals.  Highlights included hosting a large meal with lots of Pardes students on the first day, and going to the Kotel during the first evening of Rosh Hashana.  There were a ton of people there, including ~150 Chassidic fellows with massive pais and na-nach-nachman beanies jumping up and down and dancing and singing…I of course joined them.  And it was great.  Jews from all over the world, dancing and singing and celebrating the new year at the holiest place on earth.

Then, two days ago, we celebrated Yom Kippur.  The blog-worthy details are that the entire country shuts down for 25 hours.  And I mean completely shuts down.  Highways = empty.  24/7 shops – closed.  Airport – shut down.  It’s also referred to as bicycle day because all of the children take advantage of the empty streets with bikes and scooters.  After services let out on Tuesday evening, we headed over to Emek Refaim to see thousands of people dressed in white walking around and people biking and scootering and the traffic lights just flashing yellow.  It felt kind of like the end of the world.  Streets that normally have cars in them all the time were just completely empty.  You get the idea.  And then after the holiday, we all got together for a nice break fast.  A word of advice – don’t drink wine at break fasts.

Other things that I’ve been up to in the past few weeks:

  • I explored the old city a bit and found some great rooftops (where you can walk from rooftop to rooftop) with great views of the city, so I’ll definitely be back there.
  • Waking up at obscene hours to watch these ravens night games, but completely worth it to see us beat the patriots and browns!
  • Went on a great weekend retreat with Pardes to a place called Beit Yehuda two weeks ago – great way to get to spend time with and get to know the students and teachers I’ll be spending the year with.  And we did a sunrise hike by the biblical zoo, pretty cool.

And I’ll end with (if you’ve made it this far) a brief recap from a great class about Sukkot that I had yesterday:

Like the other two major festivals of the year (Shavuot and Passover), Sukkot has both has historical and agricultural significance – it represents the sukkahs (temporary dwellings) that were built by the Jews while wandering the desert for forty years, and it also signifies the gathering in of the harvest and the onset of the rainy season.  Why, at the time when we bring in our harvest, do we leave the comfort of our homes and sleep and eat in sukkahs for seven days?  So that we don’t take what we have for granted, become arrogant, and forget about G-d’s role in the world, which would be likely to happen during the time of plenty right after the harvest.

From the historical perspective, this is the same reason that G-d brought the Jews into the wilderness for forty years before taking them to the land of plenty, Israel, where everything would be taken care of for them.  By bringing them to the wilderness first, where they were reliant on G-d for everything from food to shelter, they were able to develop humility, appreciation for everything in life, and recognition to G-d,  which became crucial to their future survival (up until now).  This is not just an ancient story – a recurring theme throughout world history is that the decline of great empires has begun once the people became complacent and forgot the earlier story of where they came from and the lessons they had learned.

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Who are We, a mosaic…

The theme of the first Shabbaton this year was “Creating Community”. The first day of the retreat we focused on the individual and workshops were titled, “Who am I?” taking this idea and moving forward into the idea of building community I thought why not do a mosaic which symbolizes Pardes (the pomegranite).

A mosaic by definition is made up of its many parts, all unique in size, shape, color, etc. To me, this is what Pardes has always been about; taking individuals with their own stories, colors, etc and life experiences and together creating something greater than the sum of our parts. Here I am working with several children of Pardes staff and students on creating our mosaic. Look out for it, coming soon to a Pardes hallway near you…

An article about me was recently published in The Jerusalem Post. Please feel free to read my story and post your comments.

Check out The Open Studio: Art-ventures for Kids and Grownups to see my schedule of upcoming workshops.

 

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Dvar Torah from the Shabbaton

Shabbat shalom. My dvar hangs on the verses from the Parsha, “Neither with you only do I make this covenant and this oath, but with those that stand here with us this day before the Lord our God, and also with him that is not here with us this day,” which means us, and “All of you are standing today in the presence of the Lord your God—your leaders and chief men, your elders and officials, and all the other men of Israel, together with your children and your wives, and the aliens living in your camps who chop your wood and carry your water.” This means that no matter who you are or what you do, there is a Torah that you have to teach.

We’ve already spoken a lot about how fortunate and blessed we are to live and to study Torah in Israel, but I want to talk also about how blessed we are to live in the countries we come from. In America or Canada or England, or wherever we come from, we can go to any school or hold any job, and we can do so as Jews. This is something unheard of in history. Last year,in Turning Points in Modern Jewish History, Dean Bernstein talked a lot about what he calls the “bargain of Emancipation”that, 250 years ago, Jews could be citizens or they could be Jews, but they couldn’t be both. This is an incoherent notion today, we can study or do anything—writing, bio-stats, art, business, psychology, and more, we can do it as Jews. And not only that, the non-Jews we live with aren’t trying to kill us or convert us, but are legitimately our friends

Forget 250, even 70 years ago, who could have imagined that there would someday be Jews like us; we are the Jews no other generation of Jews could have possibly imagined. This new reality deserves a Torah no other generation of Jews could have possibly imagined, one where we go into the world and we make it holy, doing our jobs Jewishly, with all the love, honesty, kindness, and holiness that demands.

But by coming to Pardes, you are affirming that this is possible, that Judaism is up to this challenge, that you can take what you learned before coming to Pardes, integrate Torah into it, and make the world a holier place.

So my blessing to you (and me too, why not?) is that this coming year, we can live as the Jews no other generation of Jews could have possibly imagined to work together towards creating a Torah worthy of this unprecedented moment in history to ultimately make the world an unimaginably holier place

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Dvar Torah – Parsha Netzavim/Rosh Hashana

What would you do if you were greater than you are?

In Judaism, hypothetical situations are occasionally used in order to put ourselvest in a certain mindset – for example, on Passover, we imagine what it would have been like to have been slaves in Egypt.  And now, with these weeks of transformation upon us, I believe that a key to our success is imagining ourselves as greater than we are.

In a recent session of a class that we had on prayer this past week, we were discussing the Avinu Malkeinu prayer, one of the highlights of the services during the High Holidays.  The major focus of the prayer is that we are asking G-d for forgiveness for past wrongdoings and providing us with a great outlook for the year to come, and includes specific requests of erasing records of our guilt, recalling us with a favorable memory, providing us with success and support, being compassionate, and more.  But how can we possibly expect to receive these things from G-d if we aren’t doing these things ourselves, by looking upon others with a favorable memory, being compassionate to others, and more?  The message here is that regardless of how well we pray, G-d will relate to us in the way that we relate to others.

But do we need external help to do this?  No.  As said in Parsha Netzavim, it is not up in heaven, so we do not need to go up there, and it’s not across the sea, so we don’t need to go there either.  Rather, like it says in the portion, the matter is very near to us.  We have within us at this very moment everything we need to do to do what we know we need to.

So, during these ten days and onward, when things look difficult and you don’t feel up to the task, just remember – what would you do if you were greater than you were?

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Who says art projects are for kids?!


In our busy daily lives we are programmed as adults to subdue some of our pure emotions in order to be socially acceptable. Sometimes if not addressed through meditation, prayer, alone time etc ..our pure self can be pushed so far below the surface that even we forget who it is we really are. On the Shabbaton, in the spirit of starting fresh for a new year and discovering our pure soul, Elisha led a session on expressing our pure soul on paper. We studied the Modeh Ani and focused on expressing who we want to strive to be as our pure selfs. We were told to express ourself on paper. While sitting on the beautiful balcony we were supplied with all of the tools and relaxation to just be with ourselves and the paper. Some of us didn’t know what it was we were even drawing at first. Others had a plan but then even more expression was revealed naturally. After painting and drawing we came together and shared what we had intended on our papers. With just a few strokes of color and words of explanation a sense our our true desires started to become clearer. People pointed out different things in each others paintings and shared interpretations. It was extremely cleansing to just relax and express ourselves with no specific expectations.

My roommates, Hannah and Naomi, also participated in this session. When we all came home with these art projects we decided that they had to go up on the wall. It is now Tuesday night and Rosh Hashana has just ended. We hung up our pictures in the hallway. All so proud of our work because it came from our hearts. At quick glance you may walk into our house and think we have kids who have done us proud with a painting so we just had to hang it up! However, at second glance you will see our unique expression. Coming home every day and seeing these paintings on our wall will help me stay checked in with myself this new year.
Shana Tovah!

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